Story story, you’ll say story. Once upon a time, you’ll say “time time” Welcome once again, it’s Laraddiji always and forever. No wasting time today, let’s jump in, My Sexually Transmitted Miracle, but I want to give a little advice before I give all the juicy details. If you don’t want to get pregnant dear, this is for my married folks, please my fellow women, protect yourself because these men, most of them, I will tell you now, will not get a vasectomy for you. look it up, us women can have c-sections up and down our bellies, episiotomies, up and down our hoohahs even with multiple pregnancies but they can’t get a tiny snippy, if you’re a guy watching this, please prove me wrong. Especially if you don’t have any support from your family members because you’re far away from home or for some other reasons, then you’ll need to get some Rikers Island type protection, because you have to make sure no prisoner sperm escapes trying to be a hero. You need to get an intra-uterine device, or use plain old condoms, Arm up like that Nexplanon commercial, not legging up my dear. For my unmarried folks, ask lots of questions before you even get into a serious relationship with that partner, know their answers to these questions before you go and put yourself into trouble, and pls, don’t even get into this mess unless you just like starting drama because that is what will happen when that $2 test shows a + sign, and your drama will now turn into that movie, Mission Impossible.
So, back in 2017, I kind of said, I wouldn’t have any more kids, yes I said it, like a lot of other people that have said it and it didn’t happen that way. the average number of kids in my extended family and that of my husbands’ is 3 kids or less per family, usually you’ll see one girl two boys, that was the average ratio, but apparently it was to be our blessing, let me not say burden to break that 3 kids per family issue, because I can’t call it a curse. Well, I’m so glad I didn’t sign any legal papers stating I wouldn’t come back to the hospital I had birthed my kids or to the clinics that I went for my pregnancy related checkups because I would’ve lost so much money. When I was in labor with my second pregnancy and third child, I swore to the nurses I wouldn’t come back and they said I would, even they knew and I didn’t. I had a c-section with the twins, I thought life was good until I had to push the next baby out, you know, VBAC, vaginal birth after c-section, with no drugs, even though I went through the pain of getting the Epidural line placed at 7cm dilation, the medication was never connected, I wanted to wring her neck when the nurse said, oh the epidural wasn’t even connected to run, duh!! I think it was sabotage and done on purpose, that’s why I was in so much pain, I felt everything, but I still thanked her because I got to experience the almighty “ring of fire” and I would do ring of fire over c-section any day, mainly because of recovery time. So anyway, this is how it went down.
My first pregnancy was with twins and when I was in labor with them, up until I was 6cm dilated, I couldn’t take the pain anymore and opted for an epidural when my husband slipped out of my labor room for some minutes. If he were to be in the room, he would’ve convinced me to take the pain like I know my mom would’ve said also which was one of the main reasons I didn’t tell her I was in labor or even at the hospital. She’d say, ‘I pushed all three of my children, no drugs, so Lara you need to push’ Well I wasn’t going to have that. I needed someone that will tell me, get the drugs even though I knew the risks.
Back to the topic of today in relation to living in peace and in regards to my miracle, if you want peace in your relationship, and I mean long term peace, pls familiarize yourself with what I’m about to say for the next couple of minutes. There are many different types of contraception, especially nowadays, CDs, IUDs, diaphragm, there are pills you can take and lastly, breastfeeding being one of the lower ranking ones, and you know your girl had backup protection but not the heavy prison type apparently. So please do your research and learn how to protect yourself. Back in the day, I wouldn’t be talking about this because its eww and yucky? Not anymore, your girl has grown, no more shy shy, lets just help each other and avoid all the mess and in the end, live a peaceful life with our men. I had used an intra uterine device before which I loved but I wanted to loose some of the weight I had gained as a result of being on the product before I went back on it but, you know I was dreaming right, with preschool twins in the house, starting pre-K, a full time “night shift” job and a baby under 1, who was I kidding, I really was pushing it, right? I mean, I still could’ve done it however, there was just too much going on. Well, that time of the month came once and disappeared again, and I’m like uh-oh, I really didn’t want to see my period anyway, who does? but then I didn’t want to be pregnant yet either, mixed feelings. Lady, what do you want? I asked myself.
To cut it really short, 3 months go by, no bloody nature, so I pushed myself to get a $2 pregnancy test cos I was like, I’m not wasting my money for something that’s going to pop out anyway in a couple of months, its not like that $20 pregnancy test is going to sing for you, right, that would be a good idea though, if they sang? I’ve wasted so much money before checking if I was pregnant with 2-3 $22 to $25 ones, so this time around, your girl wised up. Well well well, to my surprise, it was brightly positive, no fainty fainty lines, no guessing, boldly + and before that, I had had this horrible taste in my mouth, and I still do even through the second trimester and this only happens when I’m pregnant, so I shouldn’t have even wasted my $2.
Ladies, ask them questions on those dates you go, don’t just eat and play your life away on empty promises and calories, nowadays, a marriage is a contract and a very struggling business, you don’t want to be left high and dry when your partner can’t keep their end of the commitment deal after a little amount of time. Ask what their thoughts are on sex before marriage? Ask what their thoughts are on having kids? Ask about using protection, are they for it or against it? 4. STDs History, hello? Nobody is safe anymore and definitely ask what their thoughts are about you getting pregnant for them? Are they Helpers or Deserters? Usually you’ll know more about these guys from these conversations and their answers, these are not the only questions you should be asking by the way, girl, use your head, not your, Oh, “he’s so cute”little heart and these guys need to wake up. You don’t want your girl getting pregnant and you don’t get a bottle cover, hello? You care about your future? A lot of people have made mistakes with their girlfriends way back when that is wreaking havoc in their present relationships now, you better think before you spill your drink carelessly, I hope you guys understand me.
I remember when I was dating, my dad would ask me is he this or that? Does he have this or that, does he behave this way or that way and I would say I don’t know, and he said, so what have you people been doing? I realized I wasn’t asking the right questions, or that I was too shy to ask. Please don’t be shy with a potential life mate, dig deep and get your answers, know who you’re dealing with or at least, who you’ll be dealing with, how will you know if he’s an angel or a devil in Disguise if you don’t ask questions, the right ones?
Alright you ladies watching this, would you ask your guys these questions and if you did already, what were their answers? Let me know what’s on your mind about this topic of today by placing your comments below in the comment section, I’ll be glad to share mine with you. Let us remember that at the end of the day, children are blessings from the almighty God, some people go through a lot to get a good partner, some women go through a lot to get pregnant, some women go through a lot to stay pregnant, some go through a lot after the baby is born and even some go through a lot before baby can even come home. There will be times when you want your pregnancy to be over and there’ll be times when you don’t even want to be a mom anymore but always remember that you’re not alone. Don’t be shy, Ask for help.
That’s all for now you guys, it’s Laraddiji once again closing this video page. I’m a lover of peace and I love talking about situations we might find ourselves in that need peaceful answers. I’m sorry this kind of sounded like a long contraceptives commercial but it isn’t, I’m sure the guys who watch my videos will love this. But anyway, Let’s stop giving ourselves high blood pressure for no reason. God willing, we are on this earth for an average of 75-80yrs. Let’s not waste any of that precious time on things that don’t help us positively in some way. You have a decision to make about that baby that’s about to come into the world, if not now, maybe later, the ball is in your court. Thank you very much for staying with me, you can like this post by giving it a thumbs up so that I can make more Freestyle posts and also subscribe to get notified of newly posted videos, why wait, its free. Don’t forget to love your neighbors as yourself and at the end of the day, let us remember that for us to RestInPeace, we all need to be LivingInPeace, Stay blessed.